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Aubrey (she/her) and Shei (she/they) have been dating on and off for about 3 years and have decided to take a break from their romantic relationship. Yet, they still live together and are trying to navigate their post-breakup feelings. They both agree that they will always care for one another despite the title of their relationship.
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status to others and why?
is what we're afraid of. - Oh!
we have been together for
recently to take some time apart
Yeah. - But you know that maybe we only...
But we will always care about each other.
Yeah. - Yeah. Like, that's-
‘How do you describe our current
We own a cat together. - Cat moms.
the growth, the development
and the wholeness of each other.
yourself hesitant to tell me?
And I know I need to sit with that
any negative, unhealthy attachment
I’m so afraid that means that
there's no place for each other
And I know. I know that's not the case.
I felt like I was pushing you to like
you could be okay without me.
also, I know, like, hearing that
and thinking about that being a reality.
not really something I let myself
it's complicated. - Yeah.
How do you, how do you feel about it now?
You are hesitant to tell me these things,
but we've, we've talked about it. - Yeah.
I feel like I'm in a place where I know
For us to be in a truly healthy
relational state. - Right.
I mean, we were wildly independent
before we met each other, right? - Yeah.
when we are at our best together, is when
we're at a place of interdependence.
we can fully rely on ourselves, but
still like each other a little bit, I guess.
If you could change one thing
what would it be and why?
I've made you go through, like,
I really wish I could have handled things
Like, I can't say it with confidence
in those moments because, like,
we weren't where we are now.
We've been through a lot together, right?
every single obstacle we've
encounter has been one that is
absolutely necessary for us
to have the breakthroughs that we have.
And I don't want you to feel any guilt
you've never come from a bad place
towards me in those moments.
Doesn’t mean it didn’t hurt.
What is your biggest fear about us
That we're actually breaking up.
We really suck at breaking up.
But I think both of us are, so...
We're really bad at doing that.
I don't even think we know
exactly what it means to-
and not actually broken up.
I will still love and support you
no matter what our title is.
Are you still scared that I'm-
I can confidently say no. - Okay.
A little more fear there. - Okay.
Well, I feel like we've kind of
talked about this before,
but it's- if we do take time
to be apart and be with other people
partners who are better suited
so like my- the biggest fear is
us not ending up together at the end.
What have I taught you about love?
I've told you this so many times
unconditional love meant until I met you.
the past couple of months,
that there aren't boundaries or
And that can still be true with
my love for you isn't going anywhere.
the purest thing I've ever experienced.
And I’m so grateful for that.
I want to ask you is, do you like
is the stupidest thing you could ever do.
this is what we are meant to experience
The full range of emotions.
And I know we have felt all of them,
Wouldn't change it for a second.
You’re the one I've experienced it with.
You taught me what it feels like.
And at the end of the day,
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